Two Wednesdays ago, I talked about dating and how we have come to accept the world's way or standard for dating. The Bible doesn't even mention the word dating or courtship, and it is very clear that we should not stir up or awaken love until it is time. The problem with dating is that it stirs up emotions and passions within us that we can't control. Those passions and emotions, when acted upon, cause us to fall into sexual immorality and therefore we defile our bodies. It is very easy to go from kissing, to making out all the time, to touching in private places, and eventually sex.
Dating messes you up emotionally and places the wrong value on a person and relationships. God wants us to focus on Him first, others second, and keep our selves pure until marriage. If we do that, then God will meet all of our needs, and we will build relationships (inside friendships) that last.
How do you view dating? Why do you think people date?
P. Jon
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Thursday, December 11, 2008
Truth about Dating
Two Wednesdays ago, I talked about dating and how we have come to accept the world's way or standard for dating. The Bible doesn't even mention the word dating or courtship, and it is very clear that we should not stir up or awaken love until it is time. The problem with dating is that it stirs up emotions and passions within us that we can't control. Those passions and emotions, when acted upon, cause us to fall into sexual immorality and therefore we defile our bodies. It is very easy to go from kissing, to making out all the time, to touching in private places, and eventually sex.
Dating messes you up emotionally and places the wrong value on a person and relationships. God wants us to focus on Him first, others second, and keep our selves pure until marriage. If we do that, then God will meet all of our needs, and we will build relationships (inside friendships) that last.
How do you view dating? Why do you think people date?
P. Jon
Dating messes you up emotionally and places the wrong value on a person and relationships. God wants us to focus on Him first, others second, and keep our selves pure until marriage. If we do that, then God will meet all of our needs, and we will build relationships (inside friendships) that last.
How do you view dating? Why do you think people date?
P. Jon
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What if God for some reason were to show you your life partner... Do you pursue dating
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December 16, 2008 at 7:16 PM
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Impact Youth Ministries said...
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Just because God shows you who you are to marry, doesn’t mean that it is the right time to pursue a dating relationship with that person. Sometimes we try to make what God has said will happen in our own time and in our own way. I think of Abraham and how he tried to help God by having a kid with Sarah’s maidservant.
Remember, God wants us to focus on right relationships in the right context. We are supposed to focus on God first and others second. Loving them like brothers and sisters, meaning that our focus with others is not on a physical relationship but on a personal relationship that encompasses the person for who they are emotionally, spiritually, and lastly physically. Dating, according to the world, focuses on the physical more than the spiritual and emotional; therefore, it is not wise to “date”.
The biblical principle for dating is this…do not stir up or awaken love until it is time. The time for us to pursue a longer relationship with someone is when we are ready to get married. Then we must do all we can to avoid sexual immorality by setting standards and avoiding situations that will cause us to sin. The standards for some will be tougher than it will be for others. Remember that God wants sexual purity in our marriage covenant, which includes giving love to someone before you are ready to actually be married to them.
Steps to pursuing a relationship
1. Evaluate your relationship with God – is it the most important thing in your life?
2. Are you old enough or at a season in your life where you can pursue marriage?
3. Does the other person you are considering marrying know Jesus?
4. Get to know that person as a friend and be honest about your feelings for them.
5. Set purity standards and guidelines for your relationship while you are preparing to get married. -
December 21, 2008 at 11:18 AM
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What if God for some reason were to show you your life partner... Do you pursue dating
Just because God shows you who you are to marry, doesn’t mean that it is the right time to pursue a dating relationship with that person. Sometimes we try to make what God has said will happen in our own time and in our own way. I think of Abraham and how he tried to help God by having a kid with Sarah’s maidservant.
Remember, God wants us to focus on right relationships in the right context. We are supposed to focus on God first and others second. Loving them like brothers and sisters, meaning that our focus with others is not on a physical relationship but on a personal relationship that encompasses the person for who they are emotionally, spiritually, and lastly physically. Dating, according to the world, focuses on the physical more than the spiritual and emotional; therefore, it is not wise to “date”.
The biblical principle for dating is this…do not stir up or awaken love until it is time. The time for us to pursue a longer relationship with someone is when we are ready to get married. Then we must do all we can to avoid sexual immorality by setting standards and avoiding situations that will cause us to sin. The standards for some will be tougher than it will be for others. Remember that God wants sexual purity in our marriage covenant, which includes giving love to someone before you are ready to actually be married to them.
Steps to pursuing a relationship
1. Evaluate your relationship with God – is it the most important thing in your life?
2. Are you old enough or at a season in your life where you can pursue marriage?
3. Does the other person you are considering marrying know Jesus?
4. Get to know that person as a friend and be honest about your feelings for them.
5. Set purity standards and guidelines for your relationship while you are preparing to get married.
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